Becoming a better you.

 

     SO a year or so ago we had a lesson in young women's about looking for the right spouse.
I don't pay attention very well but when I do I always remember at least one thing from a lesson, lecture, or even a discussion with a friend lol. I can remember the teacher saying the usual things make a list of all the qualities you want in a husband. We all put down acceptable church qualities because we all know the answers they want to hear (don't get me wrong we all subconsciously desire all the "correct" answers) and then after we had shared a few of them with the class the teacher proceeded to tell us something I had never really thought about before but I really like it now. If we expect our future spouse or current spouse to have certain qualities then don't you think they have a list of qualities that they want us to have? Well yeah sure they have a list we all know that, it may not be written down but there is a mental note of course.
       
      Now here is the kicker, you need to meet these high expectations as well. If you want your husband
to be fit and healthy chances are he wants his wife to be fit and healthy. If you want your husband to be patient and understanding then you had better develop these virtues as well. Now we don't have to have all the same qualities as each other life would be boring if it were like that but think about it if you are striving to do all that is on your list then your chance at finding someone with those qualities becomes much more likely. We have to prove we are willing to be a "perfect" spouse if we expect them to be the "perfect" spouse. People will similar values and standards are more attracted to people with similar values and standards.

     This post is NOT an excuse to lower your standards though!!! Keep your expectations high this is in turn allow you to become the best person that you can be and also help you find the person that you were meant to be with, even if you aren't looking to get married right now it never hurts to start developing positive attributes. You don't have to be looking for a better half you could be looking for new friends or maybe wanting to go on a few more dates than you have been. Whatever the case there is no excuse to not work on  improving yourself.
       
     I hope you have enjoyed this post and continue reading what I have to say. I love you all and will post again soon!